15. When to Seek Professional Help

Being Too Angry – When to seek professional help

We have had much discussion about anger and how it is a normal feeling that people experience. Being angry at something or someone is not an isolated case, all people get angry.

But if your anger becomes too frequent, has turned into rage and is already negatively affecting many aspects of your life, then it is time to assess the situation because maybe your anger has turned into some serious problem.

If you have tried all the methods shared in this guide and perhaps other tips to control your anger, it might be time to consider the help of professionals in order to turn your life around and live normally again. Having anger management problems does not do the person and the people around him or her any good.

Most people are hesitant to admit to themselves that they have a serious anger management problem that needs to be handled by professionals.  At first there is denial and sometimes it is hard for them to accept that they have turned into a person full of rage.

The first step in handling anger issues is to assess yourself and observe what kind of anger management solution you need to have. Most anger management issues can be dealt with yourself using proper information, self control, determination, and the help of family and friends. If your anger has become too much to handle, then it is time to seek professional help.

But what if you aren’t sure if you need the intervention of professionals or not?

Here are some questions to help you assess your situation:

•       Do you often have intense arguments between you and your loved ones or friends?

•       Do you easily lose control of yourself?

•       Do past anger and misunderstandings with other people still haunt you up to now?

•       Do you get angry and frustrated when waiting in line?

•       Do you get annoyed and call people “dumb” or “stupid” when they don’t do things right, are always clumsy, incompetent, or prone to errors?

•       Do you get angry at yourself whenever you do something bad or when you lose control?

•       Do you find it hard to forgive people who have hurt you?

•       Do you find yourself at night lying on your bed just thinking about the things that have upset or caused you pain during the day?

•       Do you get so angry to the point that you have forgotten the details of what had happened like the things you said or have been said to you?

•       Do you get frustrated a lot?

•       Do you get depressed when things don’t go the way you planned or expected?

•       Do you get mad, upset, or frustrated to the point that you experience headaches, stomachache or become weak?

•       Do you use alcohol or drugs when you are angry?

•       Do people have a tendency to stay away from you or get scared whenever you are angry?

•       Do you say things when you are in a bad temper than you later regret saying?

•       Do you have problems in the workplace because of your anger?

•       Do your family and friends think that you have serious anger management issues?

•       Are your family, social life and other aspects of your life negatively affected due to your rage?

•       Do you often get into trouble because of your bad temper that sometimes it leads to legal problems?

•       Do you have feelings of revenge to those people who have done you wrong?

•       Do you hit people or break things within your reach whenever you are angry?

•       Do you have thoughts of killing somebody you have become so angry with?

•       Do you have thoughts of killing yourself?

If you answered yes to most of these questions, then it is time to seek professional help. Being angry is normal, but being too angry too frequently to the point that it is ruining your life is not at all normal.

If you think that you need help, there are many anger management coaches or counselors that help people with anger management problems. You can ask your doctor or research your local community to find reputable professionals that can help you.

During anger management counseling, patients are taught how to control their temper and handle situations wherein they are about to lose control.

Anger management counseling is not something to be ashamed of. Everybody goes through some difficult time in their lives. What’s important is you recognized the problem and are now going to do something about it.

Live happy and be well!